I came across some really applicable advices the last time I went to a household meeting for SFC in the form of our topic and I would really love to share them with you all. The things listed below are great reminders of the things I should start doing no matter how busy I am and things I should stop doing no matter how it might be natural to me because they are poisoning my mental health. So read on and enjoy and if you still find yourself reading this seemingly endless post, you can read some of the points I reflected upon.
- Take 10-30 min. walk every day and while walking, smile. It is the ultimate anti-depressant.
- Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day. Buy a clock if you have to.
- Buy a DVD and tape your late night shows and get more sleep.
- When you wake up in the morning, complete the following statement:
“My purpose is to e.g extend love today”
- Live with three E’s: energy, enthusiasm, empathy
- Play more games and read more books than you did last year.
- Make time to practice meditations, yoga, tai chi and most of all prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.
- Spend time with the people over 70 years old and under the age of 16.
- Dream more while you are awake.
- Eat more foods that grow in trees and plants and less food that is manufactured in plants.
- Drink green tea and plenty of water. Eat blueberries, wild Alaskan salmon, broccoli, almonds and walnuts.
- Try to make at least three people smile each day.
- Clear clutter from your house, your car, your desk and let new and flowing energy into your life.
- Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead, invest your energy in the positive present moment.
- Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but lessons you learn that will last a lifetime.
- Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed out credit card.
- Smile and laugh more. It will keep the energy vampires away.
- Life isn’t fair but it is still good.
- Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
- Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
- You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
- Make peace with your past so it won’t spoil the present.
- Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
- No one is in charge of your happiness, except you.
- Frame every so-called disaster with these words: In five years, will these matters?
- Forgive everyone for everything.
- What other people think of you is none of your business.
- God heals almost everything.
- However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
- Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick, your friends will. Stay in touch.
- Get rid of everything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
- Envy is a waste of time. You already have all that you need.
- The best is yet to come.
- No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
- Do the right thing!
- Call your family often.
- Every night before you go to bed complete the following statement: I am thankful for ________ & today I accomplished __________.
- Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
- Enjoy the ride. Remember this is not a Disney World and you certainly don’t want a fast pass. You only have one ride through life so make the most of it and enjoy the ride.
- Please pass this to everyone.
Play more games and read more books than you did last year. I usually have a novel that I am munching on during my free time (which means at times when I’m not asleep while commuting to and from school) and it is a habit I will maintain and cultivate more. I noticed that I understand people through the eyes of the characters I read upon. I understand more where people are coming from through the insights I gain novel after novel. Though the next challenge for me is to extend myself to other people after trying to analyze and understand them. I am a thinker and I usually don’t act upon what I think I should do, so that’s more of a challenge I should climb high mountains to conquer. And, oh the playing part? I don’t really play games especially app games and the likes so I would just probably dedicate the time to more reading.
Make time to practice meditations, yoga, tai chi and most of all prayers. Our lives today are always up to one’s neck and I am no exception. What with juggling my academics with thesis with the very stressing (yet also fulfilling) clinical duties (and may I just add, SUPER DUPER DEMANDING hehe) with being a daughter with being a girlfriend with being a friend with being me and all the duties and responsibilities I should tend to. It’s a miracle if I sleep before 10pm and wake up after the crack of dawn. So where the heck should I squeeze in this meditation thing? Exactly my thoughts but I think this will aid me to become more focused with the things I should accomplish rather than thinking about a hundred things all at the same time which eats up most of my energy. Have you experienced doing nothing but you feel super-duper tired from all your thoughts you can’t keep track of anymore? That is what I’m talking about. Also, it will be worthwhile to calm my ever panic-ky self when I am in our clinic. It will help me to think things thoroughly and have the presence of mind with whatever procedure I am doing.
Clear clutter from your house, car and desk and let new and flowing energy into your life. In connection with being so swamped and preoccupied in my every day, I always find myself collecting a heap of mess, jumble and chaos every time I am “too tired” or “too in a hurry” to put things back in their proper places. So I end up being irritable whenever I try to do the things I have to in a much cluttered desk, bed and yes even the floor of my room.
Life isn’t fair but it is still good. This I have to always remind myself because I always hate it when life doesn’t turn the way I think is fair. Who am I kidding, really? I only end up getting annoyed when I don’t get things the way I think I should. Btw, I’m a Libra and you know the weighing scale? Haha. I don’t really believe in horoscopes but I always try to weigh which is rational, unbiased and due to someone or to myself (should have studied law! Hahaha).
You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree. One thing about me, I am opinionated and I love to let my viewpoint known. Also, I love it when I exchange ideas or inspiration with other people especially with my boyfriend (which is very assertive also!) and sometimes our discussions turn into debates; and when we are debating, I sometimes end up getting pissed off with him because he does not take my side. To make peace with myself and with other people I have to always remind myself that it is okay to disagree and respecting others opinion is a must. I should not let my ego get the best of me because really I am not a know-it-all.
Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Lately, I have been finding it so hard to stop doing this. Comparing myself to others is becoming my benchmark in my achievements which always bears ill feelings. Why? Because there will always be someone who will be a lot prettier, smarter, kinder, taller (hahaha of course!!) and the list goes on, than me. I am reminding myself that I should only compete with myself and not let the inner demons of insecurity push me to the pit of self-wallowing because I am just not too good.
What other people think of you is none of your business. The saying goes: You cannot please everybody, is really true. I might be kind or whatever to someone and if they don’t like me, fine. Hahaha. This, I am somewhat good at. I don’t try to please anyone; I just do what I please. But also, I am guarding my actions because I might be violating others’ rights as well. Anyway, one thing about me, I think I have a resting bitch face syndrome and I roll my eyes A LOT, so some might hate me even before talking to me and it doesn’t bother me. Haha
The best is yet to come. This reminds me that the horizon stretches far beyond my immediate imagination and better and greater things are in store for me. It is like a promise from God that wherever He might lead me, I may not know the reason behind it right now but I know He is leading me to somewhere good because He will not forsake me. This is a very striking line for me especially when I think about my trying times of (my kind of) depression. During those times, I just want to pop like a bubble because I think life has nothing to offer me that will excite me. But, I realized that I was just focusing on the negative present without thinking of the endless possibilities that is offered at my very feet.
Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed. You know those little annoyances of our everyday lives? Surprisingly in the long run it does not matter. I am reminding myself to always look on my blessings and shy away from looking on what I don’t have. I am also reminding myself that not every battle is worth fighting for (they’re not even worth my time and effort) so instead of ruining my day trying to retaliate, I should just take a deep breath and remember that I am way blessed to be stressed.